How to Gain True Fulfilment By Dropping Your Worst Friends
Dropping friends from your life in order for you to gain true fulfilment, happiness and a higher purpose. Friends can come into our lives in many ways. Maybe we like their company because they make us laugh, they are supportive, or they are simply fun to hang around with.
However, what if we choose friends for all the wrong reasons? What happens then?
We become side-tracked from our true purpose. We lose sight of our goals, our dreams and our aspirations. We spend more time with people who aren’t helping us level up.
Sure, it may be fun. You may have a good time. But if you’re spending a lot of time with people who don’t challenge you or help you to grow, you are going to struggle to be happy in the long run.
How to Gain True Fulfilment by Dropping Friends
As hard as this may be for some people to accept, I have to say it. Your friends are probably holding you back from experiencing a life you don’t even think is possible.
You are the average of the people you spend the most time around. And if you want to be more successful than your best friends are right now, you might need to look for better friends.
Gary Vaynerchuk gave some incredible advice in a video where he said you should go out, drop one ‘loser friend’, and find one new ‘winner friend’.
Here’s why dropping your worst friends can help you achieve true fulfilment:
- Not Everybody Wants the Same Thing
Sometimes people can be a lot of fun. However, they don’t always want the same things for their life in the long run as you do. If I had to guess, I’d say this is case for some of your friends.
Don’t you think it’s better to bring people into your life, who share the same interests and passions as yourself?
That way you can bounce off each other, share ideas, knowledge, lessons and ultimately power. Not only does this help you to grow, but you are enjoying the process.
Why? Because you’re allowed to talk deeply about your passion with others, without them making fun of you.
- Spending Lots of Time Doing the Wrong Thing is Dangerous
You know how much time you spend with your friends?
Probably at least a couple of times every week, and then you’re probably talking to them on social media every single day. You know what happens when that time is spent doing the wrong thing, or things that are productive?
It cuts into your time for growth, achievement, hard work, habits, exercise, learning and much more.
The time spent with your friends needs to be spent wisely. And even if the activity is not so productive, the people you’re hanging around with will hopefully be able to make it so. Through the conversation, the support, generosity, and kindness they can provide.
- People Who Understand Are People Who Can Be Supportive
When find people who understand your goals, you’ve found people who will be able to support you and encourage you when things get tough. Trying to find the same level of encouragement when you have friends with completely different careers and mindsets is not so easy.
They don’t understand, therefore they’re reluctant to believe you can truly achieve what you’re setting out to do. Eventually, having the wrong group of friends leads to a lack of belief in yourself, and falling back into the same mindset as the negative people around you.
- Most People Talk About Absolute Garbage
Let me give you an example of the things the average group of people talk about when they get together:
- People
- Nights out
- Holidays
- Job dissatisfaction
Sound familiar? How about some of these phrases:
- “Not too bad”
- “Same old, same old”
- “I can’t”
- “I’m too tired”
Ringing a bell?
Time to find new winners to hang out with!
It may sound very harsh when I’m saying all these things about friends and advising you to remove some of them from your life; but it’s important to understand how big a step this can be.
And not that there’s anything wrong with discussing people, holidays, nights out and so on, but it’s not a winning man’s game. You can still enjoy yourself with company, and relax, without talking about these things.
How to Find Friends That Elevate Your Success
There are plenty of ways to reach out to like-minded individuals that will raise you up and elevate your success. Here are a few of them to help you get started:
- Facebook Groups
The obvious one would be Facebook Groups. There’s pretty much a Facebook group for every topic you can think of. Just do a quick search for the topic you’re passionate about and pursuing, and you’ll be able to connect with hundreds of others who feel the same.
- Meet Ups & Events
Still an excellent way to meet people with similar mindsets as yourself. Do a search on Google, and you should be able to find some meet ups in your area. It’s like if you were trying to find people interested in meditation, you could simply take a meditation class in your local area.
Simple.
- Websites & Blogs
Do you follow any blogs that majorly discuss your passions and everything within them?
If you do, you’ll probably notice that you can reach out to the authors of any articles published, and connect with them on their social media or through email.
People love talking about their passion, and reaching out to blog authors is a great way to make new friends that’ll elevate your success instead of subtracting from it.
Conclusion
The message behind this article is a simple one: Your friends aren’t always supportive, or understanding. Nor do they always want the same things as you do. Sometimes the people you grow up with, or meet at one stage of your life, won’t fit into it in the next.
It’s okay to drop negative friends who are bringing you down, instead of pulling you up. Go out into the world, connect with as many amazing people as possible, and experience the kind of fulfillment only wonderful people can bring.
Dropping friends from your life in order for you to gain true fulfilment, happiness and a higher purpose. Friends can come into our lives in many ways. Maybe we like their company because they make us laugh, they are supportive, or they are simply fun to hang around with. However, what if we choose friends…