You cannot constantly be happy. Happiness and sadness are both a part of life. However, as humans, we tend to be sad for a long time, longer than we are happy. We forget that happiness can be in the way we look at the world around us. It can be formed in our purposes and our mindset. Happiness can be a choice. But to ‘choose’ happiness – we need to change somethings in our lives. These are a few things you can change in your life to bring your happiness back to you:
1. No Comparison
While we know it is wrong, many of us just can’t help but compare ourselves with someone else. It is really exhausting when we try to exert control over the lives of others or at least, try to find some meaning in our life through theirs. It is such a wastage of time. You should focus on your own self and try to improve it some way. Be the best version of yourself and not focus on other people.
2. Life Feels Meaningless
A specific purpose drives us to do something really meaningful in the future. Such a purpose should also define your daily goals. Every morning, when you wake up, you should look forward to doing something really meaningful. However, if you feel like you have nothing to look forward to when you wake up, then you will never be happy. So, find a purpose. If you can’t think of any, subscribe to a gym and go to it daily. Make it your purpose of the day.
3. Being Dependent
Being social is great, but you should not be so dependent on your social life, or rather, on your friends, that your happiness depends on them. There are moments when they will be unavailable. There will be moments when you have to get yourself up and find your happiness. You have to depend on yourself, not someone else.
4. Talking About Goals
We may have a lot of dreams. We talk about them a lot. But while we make such ‘grand speeches’, few of us actually act upon them. There might be limitations – money, fear of rejection or even general procrastination. Whatever be the case, you have to make a move towards your passion through actual action. As long as you talk, you will feel unsatisfied due to the lack of results.
This is one thing that can ruin your happiness. You may have faced a terrible situation in the past. Hence, you end up finding yourself in a pit of negativity. You can’t see the silver lining in anything. Life is a roller-coaster ride – it can go up and it can bring you down. But sometimes, you have to learn the lessons from the downfall and look at the positive side of things. Sometimes, you have to be grateful and happy about the ups in your life. Always seeing the bad in everything is never going to make you happy.
6. Negative Surroundings
Our surroundings can have a significant effect on us. If you feel really uninspired about something or exhausted overall, then you might feel terrible on the whole. The culprit might be your own room. Staying cooped up can make you feel stagnant. At these moments, you can go out for a long stroll and even go to a museum if you want. If you are really down, then you can go to a park and try to connect with the nature around you.
7. Blaming Others
You may have interacted with people who have messed up your life. You blame them for an incident that has affected you immensely. But after you heal, you should stop blaming someone all the time. You can be unhappy, but not everyone is to blame. Sometimes, you need to be responsible and find a way to be happy. Find out what went wrong with you and make a change in your life. That way, you can bring your happiness back to you.
Happiness is a state – it can be a mindset. Build it up within you. Only you can truly find your happiness.