by Jade Small
Empaths can’t help being understanding, giving, and more aware. It comes natural for them to feel everything, even if they don’t want to.
An Empath will always be there for you, a shoulder to cry on, a confidant, but this is also incredibly draining for them, as they find it hard to say no.
If you are an empath and looking for ways to cope, here are some tips to help you ‘control’ your gift, and not resent it.
Creating a shield
As an empath, it is important to protect yourself. This is an exercise you should do as often as possible. Visualize a shield of energy around your physical body, choosing a specific colour may help, and then imagine a flowing, moving and energetic protective layer around you. You are not trying to lock yourself into a box, so keep your shield flexible and only allow what you want, in.
Once your shield is in place, visualize that the center of your being is a little light. Focus on this internal light, or fire.
Every one of your senses. Be aware of your thoughts, feelings, emotions. After trying this alone, try practicing it when around others. Try switching your awareness from your outside environment, back to yourself, your flame, and then back again. Take note of how each feels different.
Take many small breaks throughout the day, you need that fresh air and a good walk and stretch. These breaks will help reduce the excessive stimulation of being around people.
More than anyone, you need to stay grounded and centered. Practice guerilla meditation. To counter emotional overload, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. This centers your energy so you don’t take it on from others.
Smudging yourself is good, whether you are an empath or not.
Smudging yourself and your home and even place of work regularly will get rid of other peoples energy and their influence around you. Sage, copal, frankincense, Nag Champa and Palo Santo are all recommended.
Say NO and set boundaries
Saying no can be very difficult for an empath, but its incredibly important that you do say no when someone asks too much of you. You don’t have to explain it to them, just be polite and firm.
If you feel overwhelmed in crowded situations, eating a high protein meal can help, and stay as far out of the crowd as possible, not right in the middle!
Don’t feel like you have to say yes to your friends either, if you don’t feel like going out, or if you want to leave early, don’t feel bad about it.
Find an energy practitioner
Find someone you feel comfortable with, each energy practitioners has his or her own set of unique skills and talents so you have to look around for what it is that your particular energy needs.
Understand that you may need to change practitioners as your needs change, you need to learn to recognize when you have grown and developed and are in need for a change.